I don’t know how many of you have seen or have read the book”Fifty shades of grey”.However today I am trying to look at some comparisons between the movie/book and our relationship with the workplace.
I have always been an workaholic and although now I am trying to establish some work -life balance I am still hooked with the ethical concept I need to work no matter what.In most days life without the work doesn’t look the same and I am sure that many of you are still obsessed and possessed by your work ethics.In some respect having great work ethic is great but this doesn’t mean we need to get married with work at all times.
For me work has a special meaning and in all due respect I have a “fifty shades of grey relationship” with my beautiful workplace.
As ALJames stated in his website and I quote:”
Anna goes to interview young entrepreneur Christian Grey, she encounters a man who is beautiful, brilliant, and intimidating. The unworldly, innocent Ana is startled to realize she wants this man and, despite his enigmatic reserve, finds she is desperate to get close to him. Unable to resist Ana’s quiet beauty, wit, and independent spirit, Grey admits he wants her, too—but on his own terms.
Shocked yet thrilled by Grey’s singular erotic tastes, Ana hesitates. For all the trappings of success—his multinational businesses, his vast wealth, his loving family—Grey is a man tormented by demons and consumed by the need to control. When the couple embarks on a daring, passionately physical affair, Ana discovers Christian Grey’s secrets and explores her own dark desires.”
So let’s recap folks,how many of you felt quite intimidated ,yet attracted by your workplace?Do you still remember the day when you joined a company where you fell in love with?
8 years ago,I joined Making Space and I was somehow a newbie in the business.Like Anna ,I found my organisation brilliant,successful and for me it was intimidating.People were friendly but had the professional astute I always desired.When sought advice and guidance I felt in awe by their knowledge and skills.Having worked with so many amazing individuals and what I like the most is that I had the opportunity to maintain my wild spirit.Still young and unexperienced in some areas I play untamed.I love to create,innovate and develop new ideas.My “Christian Grey” wants me with all my flaws and this is what I love the most.I am indeed entwined by my desire for passion and lust.I take things slowly and passionately and I am not consumed by my needs.
I often think about our relationship with new employees.As part of the application process when you apply for a job you need to submit an application form and a cover letter that complement with CV.Are we properly groomed for promotion?What employers see when they look at us?Do we have that” love at first sight” or “the first impression count the most?”Are we hooked with a sexy and charming Christian Grey when we apply for new roles?
Couple of days back I was reading few poems when I discovered this one and this poem has some food for my own thoughts:
what do you see?
when you look at me,
what do you see?
do you see me,
or just some girl?
when you look at my smile,
do you see a real one,
or just me faking one?
when you look at my face,
do you see a happy, laughing face,
or a depressed one, hiding it?
when you look at my body,
do you see my beautiful skin,
or just all of my ugly scars?
when you look into my eyes,
do you see my sparkling eyes,
or me holding back all the tears?
when you look into my heart,
do you see a healthy, pumping heart,
or a broken, just barley pumping one?
when you look into my soul,
do you see a soul filled with joy and love,
or an empty soul?
be honest, just tell me,
what you really see,
when you look at me.
Author: Kaitlyn Sigler
And as an employer what do they see when they look at us?First and foremost as a manager I look for creativity,fast track of achievements and having ideas to learn and put their ideas into practice.
I often dished couple of work case scenarios where employees need to be able to think outside the box and use common sense.Although skills and experiences are the must in my field I need to see how people react in unexpected situation.
I like to see people who are able to ask questions (for example asking about their learning and development ,career rewards ,job promotion and so forth.
I like people to use corkiness and be cheeky,We need to be able to create an enjoyable atmosphere around us if we wish to thrive.
So guys,what do you see when you look at me?
Do you see my desire to be pleased,my innocence when I have to deal with uncomfortable situation and have been tamed to the boned (blushing at the thoughts)
Do you see my eagerness to learn new skills and master the ones I already possessed?
Like Anna ,I will always be attracted by a powerful and intimidated Christian Grey.I like the power and the drive and the need to have structure and control.I like the beauty and the the erotic side of a pleasant life time journey.
Anna enjoyed the ride,back and forth ,she discovered passion ,lust and desire.She became confident and felt beautiful and seductive.We all need that descriptive concept in factual life however meaninglessly we try to encrypt the wild and pony me image to suggest that we have it all(Confidence,arrogance,skills and control).As a description we do tent to please easily hence the caveat of controlled pyramid of needs.I am trying not to touch base the sexist topic in here and I would prefer to design and draw the line towards Anna/woman concept .
A strong woman can build an empire but foremost she needs to be able to build herself up.my advice to any of you who want to be successful is that you need to have a very clear and faithful relationship with yourself.You will never be able to build up a successful career if you don’t know how to deal with your own insecurities which in most cases contribute to your problems.Your work,your career is your serene love with your beautiful man and you should give 100% .Love is a two ways street which requires commitment and passion.Although your Christian Grey may be/or not around the corner you may end up with an insecure or broken “man” which requires lots of fixing.With this in mind please try the allure of an employee in full control and confidence of himself/herself will prove irresistible.We are born for greater and we are the change we want to see around us.
Nevertheless I can write endlessly about this but I summarise my post with a beautiful quote:
I have met so many heartbroken men. It’s a catastrophe. Women are easily overcome by the process that happens when a boy falls in love and becomes a man. Men’s hearts are so often broken. Still, you have to leave your broken heart in a place where- when the woman who knows how to see what a gift is, sees it- your broken heart can be picked up again. I think that it takes a very strong woman (inner strength) to be able to handle a man falling in love with her, without morphing into a monster (the process is a very potent process, it can poison a woman, really). A woman thinks she wants a man to fall in love with her for all the perks that come with it; but when a real love really does happen, when a real man shows his manhood; it’s often too powerful a thing to endure without being poisoned. Hence, all the heartbroken men. But, I do believe that there are strong women in the world today. A few. But there are. You could say, that the mark of a real woman, is a woman who can handle a man- a man falling in love with her. A woman who can recognize that, and keep it with her.”
― C. JoyBell C.
Anyways peeps think about this quote from outside the box.The quotes plays the symbiosis between an powerful woman and a broken man however life or work relationships are often disciplined by the same ideology.Power brings success so choose wisely.Besides we all need some fifty shades of grey to fill our inner or outer passion.
Be needy,dare,dream ,do!!Whatever you are a Christian Grey or an Anna try to unleash your passion.Unchain your demons.Be bad,be bold,be canny.And for once lose control.