I hope all of you have a great Sunday.Most of you who know me either,personally or virtually, know that I am a bookworm,a type of person who reads a lot.Studies show that reading can increase our emotional intelligence as we understand a range of perspectives and motivations.And as you immerse yourself in a book you can discover that everything you read fills your head with new bits of information, and you never know when it might come in handy. The more knowledge you have, the better-equipped you are to tackle any challenge you’ll ever face.
Additionally, here’s a bit of food for thought: should you ever find yourself in dire circumstances, remember that although you might lose everything else—your job, your possessions, your money, even your health—knowledge can never be taken from you.Anyway I am not here to explain the benefits of reading and why and why should not read but to talk a bit about a book I have read recently.The book is called” The gift of imperfection” by Dr.Brene Brown and to be honest the book marked somehow my existence.Although I am fairly a confident person I have areas in my life that shackles with insecurities therefore I present myself with an high level of vulnerability.
At some point in life I thought that showing vulnerability will make me weak and powerless but the truth is vulnerability is one of the quality that makes us human.
Most of our male readers may want to make remarks that vulnerability is highly visible at women as we,the weakest link of our society,we are somehow the type of desperate,having a longing desire to fit in as we are small and scared.The truth is ,although women show high level of vulnerability they bounce forward with an unquenchable desire to step into their power.Women don’t mask their vulnerability ,they carry that with grace and beauty.
Myself as a woman have an innate power to show and learn from my vulnerability.My state of being means that I am open for wounding but also for pleasure,for search and desire.I am open to new lessons,new situation,new people and things that can either shake by existence and make me more vulnerable than ever.But I believe that putting ourself there in the open takes vulnerability.Having an acknowledge of your vulnerability is never easy but it is better to be open about what you are,what you do,emotions,feelings,experiences than to close ourselves off.And while such vulnerability creates all sorts of possibilities, both good and bad, its very existence is exciting.
Brene teaches us that being vulnerable is an asset to our ability to co-exist in today world.Vulnerability is about takings risks and removing masks that facade unhappiness,sorrow,sadness and feelings that we don’t want to speak about.Somehow we learnt to burry emotions and feelings and get numb and hard to feel.But numbness is an armour and you have to remove it to let feelings and emotions conquer your existence.
Vulnerability is my gift of imperfection.Its my reminder that I am allowed to feel and be cut open to the world.We can not banish imperfection but rather we can embrace it.We are wonderful beautiful people,some broken and some none broken and that is what connect us.Vulnerability is a reminder that we are all in this together.I would rather be me than to create a perfect image of what I should be.
I sum this post with a masterpiece called “Perfectly Imperfect”
We have all heard that no two snowflakes are alike. Each snowflake takes the perfect form for the maximum efficiency and effectiveness for its journey. And while the universal force of gravity gives them a shared destination, the expansive space in the air gives each snowflake the opportunity to take their own path. They are on the same journey, but each takes a different path.
Along this gravity-driven journey, some snowflakes collide and damage each other, some collide and join together, some are influenced by wind… there are so many transitions and changes that take place along the journey of the snowflake. But, no matter what the transition, the snowflake always finds itself perfectly shaped for its journey.
I find parallels in nature to be a beautiful reflection of grand orchestration. One of these parallels is of snowflakes and us. We, too, are all headed in the same direction. We are being driven by a universal force to the same destination. We are all individuals taking different journeys and along our journey, we sometimes bump into each other, we cross paths, we become altered… we take different physical forms. But at all times we too are 100% perfectly imperfect. At every given moment we are absolutely perfect for what is required for our journey. I’m not perfect for your journey and you’re not perfect for my journey, but I’m perfect for my journey and you’re perfect for your journey. We’re heading to the same place, we’re taking different routes, but we’re both exactly perfect the way we are.
Think of what understanding this great orchestration could mean for relationships. Imagine interacting with others knowing that they too each share this parallel with the snowflake. Like you, they are headed to the same place and no matter what they may appear like to you, they have taken the perfect form for their journey. How strong our relationships would be if we could see and respect that we are all perfectly imperfect for our journey.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free