I survived

It is not the strongest of the   species that survives, or the most intelligent that survives. It is the one   that is the most adaptable to change.
Charles Darwin

Long ago I believed that survival meant having basic skills knowledge that would allow me to survive in my neighbourhood. But then I kept coming across situation in which I had survived without any equipment or had perished while in possession of all the right tools. Obviously once you grew up your imagination starts to be more lucrative. After more than four decades of analyzing who lives, who dies, and why, I realized that character, emotion, personality, styles of thinking, and ways of viewing the world had more to do with how well people cope with adversity than any type of equipment or training. Although I still believe that equipment and training are good to have, most survival lesson leaves out the essential human element in the equation. That’s why I’ve concentrated my efforts on learning about the hearts and minds of survivors. First of all I learnt to watch people closely ,then I learnt to pay attention to little details. Suddenly all the ,,Why,when,how,what ‘’ started to come up in my mind . I realized survival skills were problematic for some. Even though we lived in a modern society where equipments and tools are everywhere, there are some things that some people are not able to do so. Although my parents and my nana are all long gone ,I pay tribute to them for raising such a well equipped individual. Nowadays children are not coping very well with changes and some of their survival skills are few or none. It’s always been the norm that parents have a natural instinct to provide for us. It is tempting to depend on others financially, but before you experience independence, you must be independent. And to begin you should start by buidling your survival skills and hence develop an ability to become independent. Although it is possible to continue to depend on your parents even on other  siblings or your  spouse  for the rest of your life, it is in your best interest to realize that everyone in your life that you depend on will one day no longer be around. Some will move away, some will stop talking to you, and they all will eventually die. The only person that who will always be with you is you. If you depend on yourself for support, you will never be let down.Life is hard and making mistake is part of the learning process. Dream high but in the same time ,be realistic .No one will pay for your food ,your house or your clothes .Just because you deserve something does not mean you will get it. Realize and accept these things as a fact of life. Keep your goals in sight, stay happy, and do not let the unfairness of life demoralize you. Life is hard and everyone else has had to overcome obstacles, why can’t you seem to figure it out?Life is like a jungle .Learn to survive with the tools and equipment which are available. Find out what it is like to survive out on your own, without help from anyone. Clearly, this is not a good idea if you can not afford it financially. Refrain from depending on others to define your goals for you. Life is what you make it. Imagine, growing up in  a world where you lack the very basics in life,  food, clean water, medicine, shelter, safety, a bed of your own.  Beyond that, there are no toys, no dolls, no soccer balls, no sweets and treats, at best, a bed of reeds to sleep on. School would be wonderful to attend, the path out of poverty, but there is no money for school fees, so you stay home and wait for a miracle, but for most there is none, life is simply survival, staying alive. The environmental factor plays a major part in your survival.If you’re raised in the urban environment in the affluent country; early life might be considerably different. Because you will worry less about basic needs, your focus will be more on lifestyle. However you do, don’t give up .In the end of the day survival make us stronger.Once you surrender and let go of the outcome, it frees you to act much more sensibly. It actually puts you in a better position to survive, to retain that core inside of you that will never give up.


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