fear of unknown

“Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience, that shall explain and overlook the old. Ralph Waldo Emerson

You can succumb to the fear of failure and walk away or see it as an opportunity to challenge yourself and develop new skills. It’s easy to get stuck. Nestle yourself deeper and deeper into that warm, safe and comforting comfort zone.But if you want to improve your life you’ll sooner or later need to step out of that zone. Because it’s there you’ll find all those new and exciting experiences. Where you’ll find freedom from boredom however you have to agree with the change and take small steps to achieve it.This is one of the best ways to overcome fears and get out of your comfort zone. What holds us back in our zone of comfort is often a fear or that facing that fear straight on might be overwhelming. This is a solution to those two problems. It allows you to stretch your comfort zone slowly making it less uncomfortable and frightening.If you’re for instance nervous socially you might not feel able to ask people out on dates right away. The fear of being rejected and that others might think less of you if you get turned down can make many of us feel unable to ask the question.So you take small steps instead. Steps like first just saying hi to people. Or starting to talk more to people online via forums and Instant Messaging. And then trying to be more involved in conversations at work or in school to exercise your conversation-muscles. I guess one could say that you gradually de-sensitize yourself to social situations or whatever you are afraid of. Or, seeing it in a more motivating light, that you are building courage and expanding your comfort zone in this part of your life (which is something that often seeps over to other areas of life too.)So, identify your fear. Then make a plan with some smaller steps you can take to gradually lessen our discomfort. Try something weird. I do that  most of the time .One obvious way to move out of your comfort zone is to do something new. But a more interesting option might be to think of doing something weird. When you choose something new you may choose something that is line with your personality. So your experiences can become limited. Instead, choose something that’s out of character for you. Something that isn’t you as you are right now. Something that you – and/or the people close to you – wouldn’t think that you would do ,then try make new connections .This will expose your to new experiences, opinions and interests. And it’s not just about meeting new people the usual way. Try just picking up a biography about someone you know nothing about. Start reading a book from a writer you haven’t read before. Read about a random topic at Wikipedia. Or add an unexpected RSS-feed about something you normally never read about. Educate yourself. Your comfort zone might be protecting your from imaginary dangers. Maybe things aren’t as difficult or scary as you imagine? Do a bit of research. getting some good information can dissipate quite a bit of your fear and nervousness. Do a bit of Googling. Read books and blogs. Ask someone who has been there before. Byreading/hearing about what others that have done the same thing you are about to do saw, heard, felt and did you can not only lessen negative feelings but also get some very valuable and practical tips.Awash your mind with positive memories. Realise it can be fun to get out of your comfort zone despite what your mind and feelings might be telling you before you getstarted. Think back to the previous times when you have broken out of your comfort zone. Focus on the positive memories, when you got out there, when you took a chance. And it wasn’t so bad, it was actually fun and exciting and something new to you.A lot of times we automatically play back our negative experiences – or negative interpretations of events – in our minds before we are about to do something. And we forget about the positive memories and our previous, positive achievements. Avoid that trap. Let the good memories flow through your mind instead and let things become easier. Overcome your doubts by
focusing on a successful outcome, developing a positive attitude and following a structured plan.Get a firm understanding of what you are trying to achieveDefine the goal of the project and condense it to its core objective. It will give you a succinct idea of what actions you need to take to achieve this objective.Also, take a cursory inventory of the milestones, people and skills that will be involved in reaching your objective. Doubts come from facing the unknown. Encapsulating important information gives you an easy reference to keep you confident and focused.Focus on the “what” and not the “how”People clutter their brain with an over emphasis on maintaining a budget, delegating people and using complicated project management toolsRemove yourself from the “how” mindset and become a visionary. Sit back, take what you know from your early notes and come up with an image of what you want to accomplish. Visualize success.Confidence in your abilities will come from focusing on the certainty of success, not the possibility of failure.Feel confident about your work
experience and talentsSkills are transferable and your unique qualities will strengthen any endeavour.people define a great career by the ever-increasing
amount of faith and responsibility given to an employee over many years of service. Consequently, you challenge an employee with tasks outside their comfort zone to test if they are ready to be leaders.A new generation of executives and managers are becoming jacks-of-all-trades and masters of some. You may not be able to draw a straight line, but if having that skill is important to the project, odds are you will learn how to do it. Either way I made it possible for each experience to have some sort of positive outcome. Stepping outside of a comfort zone can be made easy when we realise that we are the ones in control and make the situation so much worse or better for ourselves, depending on how much knowledge and skills we have, ‘the more the better’. Now I am constantly suprised about the opportunities which are coming my way. I feel like I ask the impossible at times and never expect things to work out but nearly everything does. I like Thomas Edisons quote ‘ I haven’t failed, I’ve found 10,000 ways that don’t work’ and Winston Churchill’s quote ‘“Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.’ I keep these quotes in mind when I feel uncomfortable. Even, and especially, the great minds of our society have had to deal with the same problems we do. The reason they are ‘great’ is because they had the intelligence to work through their issues with humour and a positive outlook, instead of running away and missing opportunities.

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