Season of hope

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‘’Wherever my story takes me, however dark and difficult the theme, there is always some hope and redemption, not because readers like happy endings, but because I am an optimist at heart. I know the sun will rise in the morning, that there is a light at the end of every tunnel. Michael Morpurgo

As holiday season approaches fast,we embark on festive journey where we celebrate the time with family and friends.During this time we have the opportunity to pause and reflect on the important things around us – a time when we can look back on the year that has passed and prepare for the year ahead.And although we see markets and malls crowded with people buying gifts and toys

it’s easy to forget that sometimes the best gift of all is simply the gift of time and gift of giving.For some people less fortunate this time is the worst time of the year.They have to beat loneliness,hunger,burden ,depression,cold,famine and the list could be endless.The weather is not helping either as it cold and frosty with fog,rain or even heavy snow in some areas

Its been said that we should think ahead most of the time and expect to foresee/vision what future brings but I could not stop thinking about a story that is still engrained in my brain.

I dont know how many of you remember the story of the little match girl.Probably you have watched the film however I will try to give an overview of the story. The little girl match story  narrates about the dying little girl’s dreams and hopes in life. The little girl faced many hardships in her life especially hunger and cold in the street in an attempt to sell matches. She started lighting the matches one after another until she felt warm. The burning flame, which resembled a candle light, gave her a warm and bright light. She stretched her freezing feet and fingers near the flame in order to warm them thus overcome the coldness adversity.From her vision, she hoped for care and love from her grandmother. Thus, she keeps lighting the matches until she completes the entire bundle in the process of trying to keep the presence of her grandmother. Eventually, the girl is raised up thus she dies and the girl’s soul is taken into heaven by her grandmother.

This is a story with a sad ending and probably I should write about something more positive but I think this is the best time of the year to remind  us about the bitter realities and take the time to kindle the fire for hospitality and give charity from the bottom of our heart.

For most of my life I learnt that being positive is  a hope of a bright tomorrow in spite of the darkness of today–and this is true.Hope surrounds us, whirls about us like the wind, falls on us like rain. Hope sustains us on our journeys, no matter how perilous they may be and, make no mistake, they are all perilous.Like the little girl match we should envision dreams and hope and although is cold and icy and the loneliness and despairs team to take over,we should remain true to ourselves.

The hope you feel when you are desperate is not necessarily for anything in particular. We don’t hope in particular for certain things to get to fruition but rather hope to  brings something inside us  to life. Perhaps it is just the full dimensionality of our own capacity to feel that returns. And in that state  anything seems possible. And in the event of failure, it will be this taste of possibility that makes disillusion bitter.Sometimes it’s easy to walk by because we know we can’t change someone’s whole life in a single day. But what we fail to realize it that simple kindness can go a long way toward encouraging someone who is stuck in a desolate place.This time most of us  yearn to stay in this in-between place, where the beauty of the times we have freshly bade farewell to is still alive and vivid in our mind – almost real – and the reality of our new circumstances has yet to fully sink in.We yearn for home,love ,friendship and job security hence we yearn for a better tomorrow.

This is the season when we have to come closer to the ones in needs. What we would like to do is change the world-make it a little simpler for people to feed, clothe, and shelter.  We can throw our pebble in the pond and be confident that its ever widening circle will reach around the world. We can  enlarge our hearts to love each other, to love our neighbour, to love our enemy as well as our friend,to do good and to give to the one who needs the most.

Before we close for the holiday we should remember“There are certain things that are fundamental to human fulfillment. The essence of these needs is captured in the phrase ‘to live, to love, to learn, to leave a legacy’. The need to live is our physical need for such things as food, clothing, shelter, economical well-being, health. The need to love is our social need to relate to other people, to belong, to love and to be loved. The need to learn is our mental need to develop and to grow. And the need to leave a legacy is our spiritual need to have a sense of meaning, purpose, personal congruence, and contribution” — Stephen R. Covey

For us,this is a season of giving ,for others this is a season of hope….So folks,start to be more generous..there is no need to be embezzled by the season scrooge…

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Footprint in the sand

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“Everyone must leave something behind when he dies, my grandfather said. A child or a book or a painting or a house or a wall built or a pair of shoes made. Or a garden planted. Something your hand touched some way so your soul has somewhere to go when you die, and when people look at that tree or that flower you planted, you’re there.

It doesn’t matter what you do, he said, so long as you change something from the way it was before you touched it into something that’s like you after you take your hands away. The difference between the man who just cuts lawns and a real gardener is in the touching, he said. The lawn-cutter might just as well not have been there at all; the gardener will be there a lifetime.”

― Ray Bradbury, Fahrenheit 451

I am fortunate to be connected and to work with the most amazing individuals ever.Not only they are so inspirational and are amazing leaders but also they  know how to make a difference,at professional and personal level the utmost.Two of the traits these individual posses came from within and the way they touch people  on daily basis is unforgettable hence I am talking about individuality and influence.When people like their jobs,their mindset is evolving and become a positive channel of creativity.Their views  concerning the daily happenings of the world and even of their personal lives hugely determines for an individual the state of the world he or she is living in as well as his/her being. Therefore, one important lesson which can be learnt in life is the significance of the things we focus on. When a person thinks about failure, he or she will definitely find reasons to certainly succumb to it.But when a person is determined to make a difference he/she will find a way to change the world.They merely think about the legacy they want to leave behind and they act in a very humble way.

We all are victims of our daily life and often we are trapped into our major problems e.g.securing a job,finding money to pay our bills,looking after our families or even going through hardship and struggle.We all have fallen victim to the rat race when people compete with each other for power and money.Nevertheless our actions are becoming the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively or using in a very destructive way. Our actions have power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.And lately I have experienced these actions in both ways,positive and negative.

We often ask if our action will make a difference,if they are strong and powerful enough to make a footprint in the sand or in another word to impact people lives.

Today, unexpected acts of kindness are so rare that they easily go viral on the internet and make headlines. But these stories of people being selfless are a timeless reminder that reaching a helping hand to a stranger in trouble – or simply doing something nice for the sake of it – are some of the most heartwarming and fulfilling things a person can do.

And lately I watched an amazing man doing that.Not only he is a successful business man but also he is very humble.He acts in a humanitarian way and he never stops to amaze me.

His aid system, however, is under  strain-buffeted by protracted emergencies at all times.He ensures that everyone needs are meet before the end of the day.

I also watched people feedings hundreds of poor people.Watched youngsters creating schools for the poor.Watching leaders making impact into their work place and ensure their work leave a legacy behind.Legacy is about reinventing the growth and how we impact others.

If people can train themselves to learn on how to really listen to others, then they can be of really much help to the society. In fact, they could improve their actions by doing good and this may as well be the ultimate end.  Being humble and not requesting anything in return are  fundamental factors at the core of this broad and significant pursuit. Widening ones self awareness involves discovering new truths about us as society.

What legacy do we leave behind?

Any kind of development whether personal, economic, geological, political or organisational, demands a framework for one to be able to know whether change has in reality occurred.And to start we don’t need much.Just a kind heart , an ear to listen and a willingness to act.Thats all.

Count your blessings

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“If we never experience the chill of a dark winter, it is very unlikely that we will ever cherish the warmth of a bright summer’s day. Nothing stimulates our appetite for the simple joys of life more than the starvation caused by sadness or desperation. In order to complete our amazing life journey successfully, it is vital that we turn each and every dark tear into a pearl of wisdom, and find the blessing in every curse.”

― Anthon St. Maarten, Divine Living: The Essential Guide To Your True Destiny

Lately I have been going through a rough path and through my falling I have questioned my existence on earth.Although my confidence and self esteem was shaken badly,my faith and beliefs kept me going.On top on that I have an amazing network of friends who were/are so supportive and reminded me that I should hope for a better tomorrow.

Through my lowest time I have learnt to be more humble and how to live a minimalist life.Things that once gave me power and joy became non important and through rigorous selection I set new priorities in life.

Once on top,the power and pay differences tend to give individuals status and prestige.However what make us unique is the value we add to companies or to the people we work with.But what everybody should remember is nobody likes the boss, and you are lonely at the top. You are the person who always has to make the decision, right or wrong. Wrong decisions may screw-up your job. On top of that there are legal liabilities as well as restrictions that some others don’t have.

So where we stand when we reached the end of the road? After months of agonies and despairs I recharged my batteries and with the first fiveish with an incredibly bright, creative, thinking-outside-of-the-box attitude I have decided for a full makeover of my priorities,choices and decisions.

I am not saying this time I will be right or wrong but ultimately the responsibility for the final decision rests with me. When it appeared that low confidence and self esteem might have damaged my status quo it is my job to make the decision, right or wrong and to go along with whatever life throws at me.

To decide whether a change is right for you, you have to weigh the pros and cons. You have to decide what best suits you and what’s best for you, not what matters to someone else. However, if you don’t like being responsible for the actions of yours and others changes the way you do things may be a bad choice. In the real world, it’s not going to be that cut and dried. There will be some things that appeal to you and some that don’t. You have to weigh all these factors and decide.

As for me,changes welcomed a new way forward.Friends,family and people around me supported me to see priorities from new perspectives.

Nevertheless I learnt to ask for help.I was far too proud to seek for help especially when I needed most.While it may sound simple enough, accepting help is something that is extremely challenging for all of us at one time or another. It can be especially hard for those of us who believe that seeking help undermines our independence and our ability to cope. However, by refusing to accept help, we disregard the fact that we are social beings who need to cooperate with one another in order to thrive.Not wanting to show vulnerability can cause us to refrain from asking for help. When we think about it, the emotional exposure required to ask another for help can be quite uncomfortable.

One of my favourite book about vulnerability is written by Brene Brown and this book is a hidden gem by all means.Its called “Braving the wilderness” and teaches to embrace the way you are,the quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone.

Furthermore it teaches us vulnerability is a luggage filled with emotions that govern behavior, it’s safe to assume that seeking help would be the emotion most closely linked to violating a rule that swallowing up our pride.

Once in a position to accept help the transformative power of art is in this sharing.If another person is being kind in offering help, accepting it at face value is the first step. Yes, there are people with bad intentions, but there are also those who want to do good by others.In my case I found out there are angels among us humans.When we think of angels we think of beautiful beings with wings. This is not always the case; there are angels who walk among us on earth that are real people with a mortal body. These wonderful people seem to be sent from above and are just what we need at the moment we need them.

But a funny thing has happened to me since then. I actually feel. . . Blessed.Humbled. Relief. Freedom. Happiness. Optimism about what lies ahead.I am in complete control of everything once again. Now the rest of it has been handed to me, if not on a silver platter, then perhaps on one made of old copper. The kind that has turned so green you would initially discard it as worthless, but when you take a closer look and clean it properly, you realise its value is far more than you ever imagined.

My friends,family and my protective angels taught me the truth.I have to remain strong and have faith.I have to believe more.I have to pray more and trust my Creator.I have no idea what lies ahead. What I’m looking at, what I’m facing, it’s madness — both in the literal and figurative sense. But I’m not frightened. At this very moment, I’m not so much as batting an eyelash at what may come. I can handle it, whatever “it” may turn out to be.

The road, for me, it’s come to an end. In front of me there is a dense jungle, filled with all sorts of dangerous things. But I have made myself a pathway in, and I know that while danger awaits, so does rare beauty.

And for that I would like to thank to all people who supported me through my journey.And to sum up my article I share this quote with you.:

“Live your truth. Express your love. Share your enthusiasm. Take action towards your dreams. Walk your talk. Dance and sing to your music. Embrace your blessings. Make today worth remembering.”

― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Disruptive,trailblazer in becoming

0fc983db5991e104b844cafec4f1f3f4“Leadership is not about men in suits. It is a way of life for those who know who they are and are willing to be their best to create the life they want to live.” — Kathleen Schafer, Leadership Connection

The climb to the top can be tough going — for anyone.And to be a game changer is much tougher than expected especially when we live in a world dominated by men.But for us life has onwards and upwards.Everyone expected to be the kind of woman who is kind and compassionate,be immediately girlishly inmate ,unaffected and mostly have no angst filled atitude.So what is the secret to become disruptive and lastly a trailblazer? Flaubert once quote “Be regular and orderly in your life ,so that you may be violent and original in your work.

But as women, there are particular hurdles that can make the journey upward toward positions of power and influence — in myriad spheres — especially challenging. Whether we’re forging our own paths or following in the footsteps of those who’ve gone ahead, these trailblazers, innovators, explorers and disrupters can encourage, motivate and push us to reach new heights — in business and in life.I wish the path could be simple and filled with enthusiastic supporters and mentors.I wish that every single woman has the resources to make her mind up in regards to her becoming.I wish everyone could have the opportunity to make the right choices.I wish the world would change overnight, but that’s not very realistic. What can change overnight, however, is how we women view ourselves. I refuse to be put in any box and I encourage anyone to pursue their passions no matter how crazy or unrealistic may sound.I am aware that life is not a narrative story with a lot of charm but it is not always bound to end badly.And although we hinge into families,mentors or work colleagues involvement ,the last deluge of invitation has to come from within if we want to succeed in life.Not every single woman came from a history of prodigies ,from rich family feuds or have tiger parents who can push up to the breaking points.But I know for sure that hard work will catapult you to become successful.The most important advice I could give to myself and to the young and unexperienced women is to redefine our understanding of what is important to us and to set a clear roadmap based on expectation and dreams.Nevertheless we have to understand our belonging and how to raise strong and how to change who we are in order to become who we want to be.

Dont try to storm your life with unrealistic expectation and then become disappointed when the course of your life will lead in the middle of nowhere but rather stay connected and informed about whats going on around you.It is important to root the status “ I am totally useless” with “I can do anything” and inhabit a new routine of becoming a stumbling road maker that will craft a new path into the world.Search for the real you,the powerful and fearless woman from within as the true belonging doesn’t require to change who you are but rather it requires you to be who you are.The most powerful abilities and knowledge are buried deep inside and often require a good shake up or a real awakening call.I know that fear of unknown can lead us astray but the end of the road has a beautiful reward.

I apologise if I sound to overly confident but as Maya Angelou once told us “The price is high.The reward is great”

Now I dare you to imagine your path beautifully laid out in front of you.Are you planning to be disruptive or not? You know the answers and I would love to know your thoughts….

Let it go

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“Renew, release, let go. Yesterday’s gone. There’s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can’t “should’ve” done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!”― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Many times in life we go through difficult paths.And it goes to a stage where the only option you have is to  flat-out hit rock bottom—emotionally, financially, mentally, and spiritually. It kind of throws you in the deep end and the crash could become lethal in many ways therefore you see everything from  distorted lenses and sometimes you feel that this is the end of you.You feel that you have crashed and thats all,its nothing what you can do to get better.

And probably lots of people have the same mindset,the negative mindset that fed the entire you  and it gets you to a point where survival become the greatest war you could ever faced when alive.

It’s in those dark moments of despair your anger and frustration become so great and you declare once and for all to never again accept such mediocrity from yourself or from others.

The thing is that how many times in life we have experienced the hardship? Once,twice or even more ? And once you see a pattern you somehow un-see it.When the same thing keeps repeating itself its hard to pretend that is just a coincidence.Once down,all  dysfunctional behaviours are finally revealed. If you never hit your lowest point, the dysfunctions continue to go unnoticed and unchecked, playing out under the denial radar and inevitably creating bigger dysfunctions and a harder fall down the track. Until the bubble bursts, you cleverly delude yourself into thinking everything is just great—and your life ends up being built on a big, fat lie and a false foundation.

I have just finished devouring Brene Brown’s book: the gift of imperfection.She said and I quote:”Owing our story and loving ourself through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”

I could not agree more with Brene.We are totally imperfect and should not change the way we are however acknowledging that we have flaws make us move forward in a much more easier way.And when life gives you a hundred reason to break down and cry ,show life that you have million reasons to smile and laugh.How much we know and understand ourselves is critically important but there is something more important : the power to stay strong and to love yourself.When at the bottom you question your motives, other people’s motives, your beliefs, your fears, why you did things, why you didn’t do things, why you attracted certain people and circumstances, why you succeeded, why you failed. The very fabric of your life is turned upside down and examined in raw detail. It’s from this point that you build again, from the ground up, with a fresh perspective based on your renewed sense of clarity.

We encounter obstacles on every journey we make and this is a very constraint and researched proof fact.Our world could be tossed around within seconds and the best lesson I have learnt so far is not to fix things at that very moment in time. Our disempowering patterns and behaviours become glaringly obvious, and the triggers that kept us  repeating those behaviour patterns come into sharp focus.It is better to slow down rather than relying on old standbys ,pushing through,soldiering on,sucking up all the bad actions and emotions.And when we struggle to believe in our actions and or worthiness,we hustle for it.Then shame began to reign our existence.Shame keeps worthiness away by convincing us that owing our stories will lead to people to think less of us.We are afraid that people wont like us if they know the truth about who we are,where we came from,what we believe,how much we struggling and what make us to act the way we do,what make us human.In addition to the fear of disappointed people we are also afraid that that if we tell our stories,the weight of a single experience will collapse upon us.There is a real fear that we can be buried or defined by an experience that,in reality,is only a sliver of who we are.You realise the bottom is actually a great springboard from which to push yourself up to the surface—away from the darkness and back into the light.Brene also mentioned that we should stay strong ,remain positive and get inspired by people around us.She said:There is a crack in everything .That is how the lights get in.And if you can see the little tiny light you know for sure that is time to let it go but also start a new chapter,have a new beginning.

Letting go of the old creates space for the new and soon new ideas, people, opportunities, talents and gifts start to flood into your experience. As you empty your cup, so to speak, you fill it back up with stuff that you actually want, instead of accepting what was unconsciously passed onto you. Life hands you a fresh cup of reality.Whether overcoming adversity,surviving trauma,lost a job,ended a relationship,having a sense of purpose and perspective in our lives allow us to develop understanding and move forward.

Only once you are willing to explore your darkest depths can you truly be of service in the world. Only when the old foundations crumble can you begin to build again on new and solid ground.

And to begin you should start by buidling your survival skills and hence develop an ability to become independent. Although it is possible to continue to depend on your parents even on other siblings or your spouse for the rest of your life, it is in your best interest to realize that everyone in your life that you depend on will one day no longer be around. Some will move away, some will stop talking to you, and they all will eventually die. The only person that who will always be with you is you. If you depend on yourself for support, you will never be let down.Life is hard and making mistake is part of the learning process. Dream high but in the same time ,be realistic .No one will pay for your food ,your house or your clothes .Just because you deserve something does not mean you will get it. Realize and accept these things as a fact of life. Keep your goals in sight, stay happy, and do not let the unfairness of life demoralize you. Life is hard and everyone else has had to overcome obstacles, why can’t you seem to figure it out?Life is like a jungle .Learn to survive with the tools and equipment which are available. Find out what it is like to survive out on your own, without help from anyone. Clearly, this is not a good idea if you can not afford it financially. Refrain from depending on others to define your goals for you. Life is what you make it.Understanding our behaviours and feelings through a vulnerability lens rather than strictly through an addiction lens could change all your life.Stop getting addictive to people and try to deal with vulnerability via simple steps.Release attachments.Stay positive and create steps that will aid you to a better tomorrow.There is so much to write and debate but I will stop here and I want to sum up with this beautiful quote:“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.”

― C. JoyBell C.

The talent delusion

I don’t know about you folks but I like spending my weekends reading a good book or a magazine.As probably most of you know I am a Chartered Manager and a Chartered member of CMI.Being a chartered member gives me the benefits of reading the management magazines that I always look forward to it and also getting used to the resources available via the CMI website.I guess I just enjoy getting  used to all  the perks available  to me:).

Today I came across an article called “The talent delusion” written by Tomas Chamorro-Premusic.

First and foremost I was hungry for a good read and I have devoured the article like a little minx,my hunger got deeper and deeper as I delved into each page so decided to share some little food for thoughts collected from the article.I munched it over and over so decided to spell out the words of wisdom.:)

Tomas argues the benefits of the doubts of what the talent is and how the myth can be de-mystified.

He stated that some of the major problems we face are due to a misunderstanding of what talent actually is,and a general tendency to overrate our ability to manage it-a talent delusion….

So folks, are we delusional in our thinking that the talent myth can be debunking ?

He continues to debate that there are discrepancies in the ideas that the link between individuals and organisation are not done at the same level and there is a mismatch between individual view of their own talent and how talented the organisation think they are.

I believe that you can not create a genius in a pile of mud but rather taking care of your previous seedling.Employees get nurtured and flourish when they have the best resources and usually the best organisation are equipped with the appropriate tools.In fact,even when its narrowly defined such as in the case of intellectual ability,there is only a weak relationship between people’s perceived and actual talent.

Are our managers equipped with the right ability to spot talent?These incongruent talent perceptions cause problems for both parties:for employees,it leads to unrealistic expectation and a sense of entitlements and for organisation ,it leads to promotion and hiring the wrong people at the expense of overly looked and better alternatives.Nevertheless individual success has less to do with talent because too many people advance their career without helping their organisation to advance.

Like Tomas ,I believe that talent must be cultivated and enriched to achieve the fullest potential.Although is often assumed that talented people are good at things without being taught their full potential must still be developed even when they display a clear predisposition for greatness in their field and their talents are expressed early on.

I could not agree more that the environment is the best catalyst to cultivate success and that reminds me of the Child genius.These little kids have remarkable abilities to retain information however you  could not imagine how many hours these kids spent to develop their talents.They have been taught from the early age on how to retain information but also on how to collect and enrich their vocabulary.Often the language used by these kids is overwhelmingly outweighed even by Oxford dictionary.However coaching ,mentoring and self taught process are the key to success.This is why in talent like in many domains the rich get richer and the poor get poorer.

Tomas also argues that we are often less talented than we think and he gave some examples about the Kardashian phenomena and how these individual became richer by infesting the media with the iconic image of being special even in a bad way.

And although individuals are talented in different and diverse ways there is a tendency of acting in a very hedonistic way and people raised the bar based on their expectation(although most times it has been created  by unrealistic measures).

I want to think that everyone is talented in a way or another however we should be realistic in term of on what we are talented and how can we put our talent into practice,I believe that you can not become the CEO of a tech company because you have won the X Factor for being the best singer in the world.

Tomas sums the article with Mark Twain’s quote:It aint what you don’t know  that gets you into trouble.Its what you know for sure that just aint so.”

I ultimately sum my article by another famous quote:” Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. Calvin Coolidge

Why me?A pep talk about an intellectual takeout

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Do you ever question yourself about why have you been picked as the best employee,the named girlfriend,spouse or even the alluring and sexy ,smarty business partner?

What is the difference between you and the others?What is your secret and what make you stand out from the crowd?Although I participate in the recruitment process and I recruit at all times ,there are times when I question myself about why I always tried to pick the best.Whats the secret to the demeaning purpose of getting picked by the right recruiter,company ,spouse and so forth..

Here’s my definition: You are unique,with a strong personality and you are by definition an  intellectual.By that, I mean that you already passed the status quo and you are named in the farther category of the ones -the ones who fits most of the bills.Millions of us track ourselves all the time. We step on a scale and record our weight. We manage businesses.We ran for the president. We count what we eat and how many steps we do a day. But when the familiar pen-and-paper methods of self-analysis are enhanced by sensors that monitor our behaviour automatically, the process of self-tracking becomes both more alluring and more meaningful.We will try to add more purpose to the list to make it meaningful by getting personal and person centred.Maybe, there are no definition of what is the best,or why have you been tracked and named the one.I agree that perfection is not attainable and what we have is to constantly  chase our dreams .Our purpose is not merely to survive but to thrive and to be devoted to learning. I actually feel something akin to an orgasm when I learn. The behaviours and the actions often intertwined and they are the main breed of a social stance.The ones who always work towards goals in any ways possible.Not matter about the difficulties and pros and cons,they will always thrive based on positive or negative reactions.

I aways believe that we should plant seeds of achievements in our own mind and have a constant reminder that this is the path we should follow  no matter what.In life like in business you should be particularly interested in cultivated our  own garden,constantly planting new seeds ,tiling the soil and getting rid of the weeds. If you want a good harvest, you’ve got to put the work in and you’ve got to properly plant the seeds.When my mentor told me that I should become a “gardener” I did not really fully understand the message.I was somehow dazzled by striking pose of success and how to attain it rather than thinking  of how to obtain it.I muddled the water expecting to get faster responses to my problems.And waited and waited for answers.

It wasn’t until years later that I began to contemplate his  message both metaphorically and literally.  By this time, I had spent countless hours delving into management and leadership concepts.  I have started to feed my craving brain with food for thoughts .I have challenged everything I learnt so far and thought about it over and over.I created channel of communication I never thought I was able to do it.I built up new bridges and did not burnt the old one neither.  My mentor and my connection network delivered a myriad of intricate and thought challenging philosophies. I found their work  to be perennial wisdom and the stepping stone for my awakening  call.

I always want to know why.And my whys were bottomless. Why is it raining? Because there are clouds in the sky. Herein the knowledge itself became my  goal. I was running the hunger game therefore I’ve got  a dopamine rush from knowledge. And I followed my brain wherever it led me.I have started to think outside the box and the more I question things my answers became elusive ,complex and fascinating.

Why me ? Why him,her or them?I found people around me alluring, beautiful inside and out.But I also found predators of social life,People who can do anything to simply wreak havoc on your emotional and mental well being.

And being honest I have learnt one simple and valuable lesson: To stay away from people who are to charming and have shallow or superficial personality.They have a special way of luring his or her victims into their web. While some go for the generic route of giving gifts and compliments, most spend their time figuring out what makes an individual feel special. And each person needs to be charmed in a different way. 

The best way to recognize this is by looking for signs of authenticity. These will show up in their inconsistent and insincere behaviors and if others speak of them poorly or not like you know them.

So before questioning yourself why you,try to look in/from within.All the answers are in there and if you feel confused,non confident or lack in anything you should try to address these issues .But if you feel confident you should may awe your personality and authenticity.The world is not about you at all time and when your time comes you should be fully prepared.Until then,you should stop questioning why me and try to answer on how you made a difference as each day passed.What made you special and I am pretty sure that will suffice for now….